I recently saw an article titled “Don’t date a girl who travels” posted by a friend of mine on Facebook. As a girl who has been to Africa and Central America in the past year alone, I instantly questioned whether this article was written about girls like me. Once I read the article, I realized that it was describing me entirely. Had this person read my diary?
While the author had an interesting perspective, I’d like to argue that it’s the wrong perspective. Everyone should want to date women like me. Speaking from experience, I know that we are awesome. Let me tell you why.
The article says:
Wrong. This makes us easier to please because you don’t need to buy our love. We don’t care about the stuff you buy us or the things you own, because we don’t care about things. We love you for you.
“Don’t date a girl who travels because she will bug you to book a flight every time there is an airline seat sale.”
Let’s face it, girlfriends are always going to bug you about something. It’s better to have one who likes to travel with you, instead of one who nags you about putting the toilet seat back down.
“Chances are, she can’t hold a steady job. Or she’s probably daydreaming about quitting… Don’t waste her time complaining about your boring job.”
I need someone to clarify why this is a bad thing. Anyone who is truly unhappy or bored with their job should look for another one. There is no need to settle for complacency.
“Don’t date a girl who travels. She might have wasted her college degree and switched careers entirely… she doesn’t work like a robot all day, she goes out and takes what life has to offer and challenges you to do the same.”
It’s sad to think that we live in a society where not acting like a robot is deemed “un-dateable.” If anyone can’t handle someone challenging them to experience what life has to offer… than forget about dating girls who travel. You probably just shouldn’t date at all.
“Don’t date a girl who travels for she has chosen a life of uncertainty.”
I hate to break to you, but just because you have a mortgage and work a 9-5 job doesn’t save you from uncertainty. No one knows when they are going to get into a car accident, be diagnosed with cancer, or have their house burn down. Girls who travel may not be certain about where they are living next year, but they are certain about one other thing: life is as short as it is sweet. We don’t want to waste a minute of it. And no, we don’t want you to waste a minute of it either.
A girl who is able to think for herself is intelligent. A girl who is able to express her opinions is confident. And most people will tell you that intelligence and confidence are two very sexy characteristics.
“She will never need you.”
We don’t need you. However, that doesn’t mean we don’t want you… and that is arguably more appealing. We aren’t dating you because we have to have a boyfriend to feel good about ourselves. We are dating you because we love you.
So moral of the story: DATE a woman who travels, because it will be an adventure. DATE a woman who travels, because we are going to help you have a more fulfilling life. DATE a woman who travels, because we are going to challenge you to be the best man that you can be. And ultimately, isn’t that what love is all about?